When a companion comes to admonish us, and we find within ourselves a matter we have likewise been wishing to bring to their attention — let this be firmly held in mind: one must not return counsel for counsel in that very instant. To do so shall cause the other to perceive our words not as sincere and well-intentioned guidance, but as retaliation or as a deliberate seeking of fault in return.
Let there be a mindful interval before one offer counsel in return. Allow at the very least one or two nights to pass beforehand. Should the matter be of some urgency, even half an hour of patient restraint shall serve one far better than an immediate response. Only then, when the moment is composed and the atmosphere is clear, should one gently proceed.
October 13th, 2019
